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The importance of question #3

2/21/2019

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In the summer of 2000, just months after Marcia Clark’s book had destroyed my O.J. theory, I began putting that silly theology of mine – as well as my mother’s faith – to the test.

At first my investigation was scattered. I didn’t have a clue how to approach this enormous task, so I just kept reading whatever looked interesting. In addition to bulldozing my way through much of C. S. Lewis’s fiction and non-fiction, I devoured a chaotic array of books from the library and bookstore of the church with the warm congregation and uplifting worship music. And I began immersing myself in my new study Bible, a fat volume with overview essays, charts, and maps as well as endless footnotes explaining what various verses mean to our lives today.

I read all these things and started to see my ideas as pretty weak – and pretty childish, based as they were on a spurious combination of fantasy and wishful thinking. And I started to gain some confidence that my mother’s faith could, after all, be true, that there really might be a heaven and that we might actually all be together again someday. Maybe I could even bank on it.

But I couldn’t be 100% certain, could I? 

And so I worried, intermittently but intensely, that it was all a myth some ancient leaders had cooked up to keep the masses in line. Or, as some of my fellow feminists would have said, a myth cooked up by men to keep their little women barefoot and pregnant and home.

Which meant that I had yet to set the whole question of atheism permanently aside.  A distressing realization: I had toyed with its negative brand of absolutism for too many years already. And as someone had said, you can’t prove a negative: Even if you know 99% of everything there is to know in the universe, how do you know that God isn’t in that last 1%?

Besides, atheism no longer had any appeal for me. I figured that marrying Dave had put the kibosh on my last remaining need for a godless universe devoid of moral absolutes.
But at first, all I had to prove God’s existence was C. S. Lewis’s argument about our instinctive understanding of a universal moral law – what some people refer to as the “argument from conscience.” It was a good argument, but I couldn’t accept it as conclusive evidence.

I kept going around in circles.

Did science eliminate any need for a Creator?

Did near-death experiences render atheism obsolete?

Might all religions be true, in their own way?

Could it be that my home-grown philosophy was right after all?

And so I returned to Square One.

It reminded me of my single days, when I would spend hours wondering whether some guy was telling me the truth or not, weighing and re-weighing the evidence, agonizing over what to do about each of three or four possibilities. I still hadn’t learned to think linearly, it seemed. 

(Was my circular thinking evidence that the eastern thought was true, after all?)

And then somewhere along the line I read that, centuries earlier, the world’s foremost philosophers had narrowed all these big questions down to the three biggest questions – the only ones that really matter:
 
1. Where did you come from?
2. What are you doing here?
3. Where are you going?
 
I had at least two answers: Science had solved #1 (from prehistoric chemical soup) and Betty [Friedan] had taken care of #2 (to become independently wealthy, protect my dignity and promote the sisterhood).

So #3 was the only outstanding issue.

Where are you going?

I’d once sidestepped this question by telling myself that writing the Great American Novel would assure my immortality; it would buy me a place in the hearts and minds of the intellectual elite for centuries to come, even if it didn’t reveal where I would be during this posthumous adulation.

But now my final destination had become enormously important, related as it was to the final destination of everyone I’d ever loved.
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Especially my mom.

--From Heaven Without Her, pages 97-99
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Bettie G link
2/21/2019 05:21:11 pm

I loved this section in your book. It really is that final question that points to the longing in our soul, isn't it? Thank you for sharing your story!

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Kitty Foth-Regner link
2/21/2019 05:35:42 pm

You're so right, Bettie!

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